Thursday, November 16, 2017

Community Division

I originally posted this in November 2009, but thanks to Facebook reminders, it was brought back to my attention and I have dusted it off for you.

“[People] draw this neat little circle, and everyone inside the circle is normal. Everyone outside the circle should be beaten, broken, and reset so they can be brought into the circle. Failing that, they should be institutionalized, or worse, pitied.” – Dr. Gregory House played by Hugh Laurie in the Fox series House.

There seems to be a natural instinct to seek community. We all like to experience fellowship with people who share some kind of interest or perspective or goal. Young schoolkids form clubs for a variety of purposes. Athletic activities give fine expression to this urge. College kids belong to social or service organizations, or proudly belong to the community of people who abstain from being in organizations. Beyond school and sports, anyone can observe a variety of other indicators for this instinct. Young Upcoming Professionals “network” together. People in particular fields of work form associations and leagues and societies and such. People develop such a sense of pride in their homeland that they form community around notions of nationalism and/or ethnicity. There are even examples of groups based on common race. There are forms of community based on gender, others based on age, and others based on religion.

Whatever the particular common ground is, any communal expression necessarily involves exclusion of those who do not “fit” or who choose not to comply with some requirement. A community is defined in part simply by who is in and who is out. It’s not a football team if people with no athletic skills or abilities are able to sign up. It’s not a sorority if guys are on the member list. It’s not the state’s Bar Association if accountants and plumbers are on the roll. And it’s not a Baptist church if all the congregants are baptizing their babies.

All of this can be harmless, given good circumstances. People don’t tend to have reason to boycott the local high school’s Future Business Leaders of America club. The massive riches obtained in the world of professional sports indicate that there is a consensus of support for the endeavors of professional athletes. The Young Professionals Association downtown doesn’t seem to be offending people.

However, problems can arise when the “in” crowd of a particular stripe have views which indicate that the “out” crowd are inferior or pitiable for their lack of being “in.”

Even this is not always the case. Groups do have sufficient cause at times to believe that their experience is better than people who are not in the group. We who are not in prison have a superior experience to those who are in prison. Another example is that I am among those who have visited Boston, while I have several friends who are among those who have not visited Boston, and I am obviously not a bad person for thinking they are inferior for this. And there is probably very little harm when a group of tuba players look down their noses at a group of oboe players.

But when real or perceived serious consequences are involved, it is possible for outsiders to be alienated, offended, demoralized, and even dehumanized.
You’ll have no need of me explaining how the relatively recent history of racism provides some clear examples of this. And you are surely aware of various news headlines indicating some extreme religious fanaticism leading to a serious injury and/or murder of “infidels” (outsiders deemed to be “not faithful” and not worthy of continued life according to an extremist community standard).

However, there are more common examples of outsiders being derogated.

Some abortion advocates may suggest that anti-abortion activists are Neanderthals. The return shot may be a categorization of murderer.

Some atheists may suggest that adherents to supernaturalism are weak-minded squanderers of time and energy. The return shot may be the notification that the afterlife for those without theistic faith will involve an eternity burning in a lake of fire.

Some Baptists may suggest that Catholics are superstitious and in danger of hellfire for idolatry. The return shot may be that Baptists have no connection to the historic Christian Church and are in danger of hellfire for failing to be reconciled to Christ’s ordained earthly representatives.

Some Presbyterians may suggest that a variety of other Christian denominations are in grave error for not believing the right things in precisely the right way. The return shot may be that Christian faith is not about having the correct set of beliefs in the head, and those who put their faith ultimately in their particular understanding instead of having faith in God are the ones in danger.

In the natural pursuit and enjoyment of community life, it is inevitable that a division will be created between those on the inside and those on the outside. Whether or not the outsiders in any scenario are alienated, offended, demoralized, and/or dehumanized is dependent upon the insiders’ capacity for grace, patience, and understanding.

While insiders should feel free to continue making arguments in favor of their various perspectives and experiences, they should consider that it is risky, and sometimes counterproductive and even wrong to derogate outsiders.

Think back ten years or so. There were circles that you so neatly fit into, groups that seemed to be the bar for your normal. Have there been shifts of thought or activity which have landed you in a “community” previously considered outside your realm, beyond the pale of your orthodoxy?

Thoughtfulness is the order of the day.

Sunday, March 15, 2015

McClure Szenasy Smith




If someone offers you the chance to attend a conference where you can hear from Tori Murden McClure, Susan Szenasy, and Carey Smith in a 24 hour period, I highly suggest you get on board.  A group of regional advocates for sustainable building practices held a leadership summit which included encouraging words from a variety of speakers.

McClure is quite remarkable for a variety of reasons and is best known as the first woman and first American to row solo and unassisted across the Atlantic Ocean.
http://www.apearlinthestorm.com/meet_author.html

Szenasy has been leading METROPOLIS magazine since 1986 and her experience and wisdom are truly impressive.
http://www.metropolismag.com/April-2014/Szenasy-Design-Advocate/

Smith is the CEO of Big Ass Fans. He prefers the title Chief Big Ass. He is a straight talking capitalist who is not ashamed of making a profit by selling a quality product to a willing buyer. His company has a fascinating story and his products are very well engineered and built for high efficiency.
http://m.fastcompany.com/3020706/leadership-now/one-beloved-boss-on-what-makes-a-great-leader

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

Give a Meal and give multiple meals

There are many worthwhile charitable efforts which would benefit from your final year-end contributions today. One of those has some generous matches from great partners. Every dollar you donate today with Feeding America (link below) actually provides 10 meals for those in need. I learned about Feeding America because they are the official philanthropic partner of my national fraternity, Lambda Chi Alpha. Feeding America is a network of food banks which VERY likely includes your local food bank. You can fight hunger in your home area by designating your gift through the Feeding America site to benefit your local food bank.

CLICK HERE TO GIVE TO YOUR LOCAL FOOD BANK through Feeding America.

Friday, October 4, 2013

Tell the truth. Live your brand.

While there is rarely an objection to the idea that "telling the truth" is good, most of us have heard the exhortation, "Walk the walk." The exhortation is widely known because examples are quite plentiful of individuals who have difficulty practicing what is preached. And the same can be applied to business executives and politicians who fail to deliver on promises made or messages proclaimed.

In a recent article for Ad Age, David Angelo wrote to marketing executives and agencies, saying "It's time to live your brands." Angelo explains "Brands need to be ready for the spotlight -- good or bad -- by conducting business and communicating as if their reputations depend on it...Tell the truth, from the inside out."

I shared this via Twitter with the text, "Tell the truth. Live your brand." But when a follow up inquiry came from Ruth Simone of Luminare Coaching, I was compelled to give a reply with more space than 140 characters!

From a marketing perspective, it is good to be perceived as "believable" and trustworthy because consumers and/or donors are being asked to make an act of faith in making a purchase or contribution. But if we want to be believable, we have to actually believe the message that we are putting forward.

And our belief is proven in the actions of our lives, personally and corporately. Perceived discrepancies between the message and the actions of those behind the message will always undermine the effectiveness of any endeavor.

Whoever or whatever you are, as an individual or an organizational representative, be truthful. Believe your own message and back it up in order to be believable.

You want to know more. I have no objection to you knowing more.

One of the fascinating aspects of networking and socializing via internet resources like Blogger, Twitter, Instagram and Facebook is the need to assess a new follower or followee, or "friend" within a relatively brief initial scan of the available data.

Who is this guy? What is he like? Are his interests similar to mine? Is his conversational capacity up to par?

On the one hand, I believe such assessments can be helpful and sometimes accurate. On the other hand, people are just too complex to be summed up in such a small amount of space.

Am I all about sports? For professional sports, I do enjoy following the Boston Red Sox, Boston Bruins, Boston Celtics, and New England Patriots.

So am I all about Boston? I love my home state of Arkansas. For college sports, I am quite squarely in the corner of the Arkansas Razorbacks. I love that I was born and raised in Arkansas, and I love that I live here now and probably always will. But yes, Boston is my adopted non-hometown hometown.

So what sort of reading do you enjoy in your free time? When I read, my interests vary. I've enjoyed both dramatic and humorous novels. I've enjoyed nonfiction that focused on religious themes, business strategy, and neuroscience.

Ordinarily, my "free time" involves being on or near a tennis court, but I also run regularly.

To browse the list of Twitter accounts I follow would be quite a lesson in variety. I don't mind folks gathering "knowledge" about me based on what I do and what interests me. If you have a particular question, it is unlikely that you would find me hesitant to answer it.